Dash For Power

If you wake up, or arrive at work, and are faced with a grump: try these, one at a time

• Rather than sulk off to your cubicle, says Brace Isaac as reported in Toronto’s Globe & Mail, try one of these alternatives to any negative reactions:
• 1. Directly Address the Situation: this takes guts and is always immediately the most threatening, and makes your heart pound the most; it takes guts, but gives you the most direct answer to your fears: have you screwed up, or is boss/honey just mad or not feeling good, but not at you. Then you know. If they are really angry with you, be the first to hear it, and then do all you can to make it right, apologize, ask for better suggestions on your next attempt at whatever…
• 2. Divert with Good News: How well do you do Pollyanna? If you can scratch some real good news out of your what’s happening basket, this might be the time to bgin to brain tease on some what-if ideas talks, that involves him/her. Maybe you pull together a panel group to carry an idea, give him/her credit; win, win.
• 3. Ask if there is something you can do, and show you mean it. Some times a thanks no, if followed up with an email or tip on some thing, earns you a private reply, and the beginnings of a more personal level of respect and earned friendship. Never rush, but allow it be known you are available, very much a concerned and involved member of this marriage/work team.
• 4. A small gift. Any small personal things, some times, can make you all laugh, and relax. Use your imagination, based on your circumstances.
• 5. Stay away. You know when. If the bear is raging, snarling at everyone, kicking the dog, best slip out the back door, go smell the rose. Come back in when it is quiet, show surprise at all the blood and mess, offer to help clean up.
• Next, we will talk about marketing, but that may involved even friendly people. So, good luck, take care. Watch your back while you try to achieve the finest for you and the group. Enjoy. relax. Some right people not your fair efforts. Smile, even if with you mouth closed so the missing tooth doesn’t show. Enjoy. Win wisely. If your vital person is in a rage, they are all in their emotional brain: stay in your logic brain, step back, walk away; that clearly shows a raging person that a wise person they respect is turning away. Realize your not smiling look into their eyes is making a very powerful point to a bright person who may start to calm, realizing they are doing it again. This is not the first time. But you could help disarm it by not allowing such inappropriate behavior to allow you to lose you own personal integrity. Breath deeply in wise silence, your eyes on your abuser. At some point, right prevails.
• Derek Dashwood

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